Life seems.. complicated..?
I am not independent.. I live with my Mom. When I think about the things life demands, I get scared and think I'm happy just living at home forever. Like taxes, I fear I'm not going to do it right, go to jail, ruin my credit.. I don't even know how to do it. Car insurance, I guess you just have to have it? But it only pays for repair of the other person's car? Yes? No? Car maintenance... what are good things to do for your car? I'm afraid I'm going to break my car when I get one.. Like oil, run it dry or not change something.. Driving on the highway.. don't get me started on that, but I guess I got myself started on that already.. I feel that when you're on the highway you're going too fast to control the car very well.. My mom wanted me to drive on the highway on the way home yesterday.. but I wouldn't.. I'm sure there are other things I'm not remembering my being scared about.. but can someone explain maybe how I'm just being over-excited about this?
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- You are suffering from anxiety. Speak with your doctor about treatment options. There are ways to overcome these fears (including but not only medication) so that you can enjoy life without your worries holding you back.
- Life is complicated, you're absolutely right. But none of it is so complicated that you can't handle it one step at a time. Start small, like, practice driving with your mom where there's no traffic, then on streets where there's some traffic, then on the highway. If your mom thinks you're ready to try the highway, then you probably are. And remember, on the highway, you only have to go as fast as you are comfortable (within reason, of course), not as fast as the speed limit. My mom-in-law is just returning to driving distances after many years of illness and caring for her husband. When she drives on the freeway, she just stays in the right-hand lane and goes as fast as she feels she can manage. My dad tries not to drive on freeways at all, but prefers surface streets. The highway of life is pretty much the same. You just go at the speed you're comfortable. You learn independence skills one at a time, now, while you're still at home. Then you practice them while your mom can help you if you have problems. And one by one you master them. There's no hurry. It sounds like you can turn to your mom for support and advice. She'll help you learn what you need to know, and so will the people at school, church, etc. Don't worry, you'll soon be helping other people learn how to be independent. Just take it all at a speed you can manage. Good luck with this exciting challenge!
- how old are you. if you are less than 15 than its too early to start worrying about all this. but if you are more than 15 than these are things which deserve caution. firstly speak to your mom. ask her how she dealt with all this. speak to your college seniors and alumni and ask them what they did to cope with responsibility. if all else fails speak to a counsellor.
- Not too be mean, but your mom is not going to live forever. You have to learn your way around the world (or at least the city you live in) whether you like it or not. Not to mention, you're putting a HUGE burden on your mother. Taxes are easy. If you can't figure it out, learn how to or go to H&R Block. Car insurance is a necessity. You can get liablitly (pay for other person only) or full coverage (pay for both) Car Maintence is a pain in the ass. Oil Changes, Tire changes, tune ups.. it goes on and on. A fact of life. Driving on the highway is easier everytime you do it. It's simple.... Life is scary,it's hard, and full of surprises. BUT, that's what it's all about. What's the point of living if you're not going to enjoy it? The world is scary, but it's also exciting, beautiful, and worth every minute of stride. Step out of your box, you'll be glad you did.
